SITUATIONSHIP

I was having a pity-party chat with a friend of mine whom I adore. She has found herself stuck in

a situation-ship for the last few months and she is struggling to get free of it.

These situation-ships are hard for me to decipher. I’ve been unavailable for 20+ years. The

game is different. I was listening to her describe a relationship that never really was, but was

real enough that she loses sleep. They have never been intimate, like in no way, no kisses, sex,

anything. But they have a serious “connection.” They seek each other out for conversations and

longing looks. They spend hours on the phone and have become each other’s trusted

confidante.

But lately, there have been inconsistencies in his actions and hers too. They go weeks without

talking. They see each other and play the silent ignore game. She blocks and unblocks him

every other week. They have no plans. They have no routine. Nothing. Just unfulfilled emotions.

WHAT? WHY? HOW? Like who signs up for something like this? How are we getting into these

situations? Personally, this sounds like emotional hell. I love my friend. She has the biggest

heart and I trust her to eventually get free of this dilemma. However, the emotional toll it is

taking on her is crazy. She can’t let go, but she can’t hold on. She misses what never was.

I can’t judge because I recognize this can happen to anyone. Sometimes connections happen

when you least expect it. Your heart may be broken or just in need of comfort and you connect

with someone unexpectedly. Give yourself grace. Maintain some boundaries. Protect your heart.

But if all else fails, just fuck him one good time then ghost him.

I write romance, not self help.

See ya’ll soon. :))